We like this site. Useful, no? Very thorough evaluation of a variety of different gender-neutral third person singular pronouns. There are probably tons more out there that people have come up with, but this selection seems to cover the most common ones.
Thoughts? Do y’all agree with the evaluations?
In regards to singular they and plural they, I think context matters and people can likely figure out which it is from the context you use it in.
I’m personally all for a neutral pronoun and a mixed pronoun being added to our language and I think they “they” will be picked up pretty easily by most (since many people already use it!). I like ze/hir for myself when applicable, but when people use they/them, it doesn’t give others too much pause and I don’t mind those pronouns for myself either.
Time for a re-introduction. I have taken on a name change, for gender neutral purposes. I don’t plan on doing a government name change, because my birth name holds quite a bit with it. I feel as though getting rid of it, gets rid of someone who was very important in my life, and I don’t have the strength enough to do that.
So, hi, my name is Alex. 23 year old, masculine centered genderqueer.
… How did you get those muscles because DAMN - I will follow whatever routine it took to get those!
I identify as trans*, but in the broader sense. I’m not on T (except for what my body naturally produces) and I’m not interested (at least not now) in top surgery. I’ve gotten a great deal of bullshit from both lesbians and from trans men that I know about my identity and that shit is really not fucking cool. NO, I don’t identify solely with women, and NO, I don’t identify solely with men. If I had to identify with anyone, it would be the people who identify with nothing and just choose to be themselves, regardless of who that self is.
And no, I’m not confused about my identity, but I am willing to embrace it wherever it takes me. I am not attracted to just men or women, but to people who are awesome regardless of their gender or what their genitalia look like (because perfect penises and vaginas aren’t the only genitalia out there). Fuck you, assholes. I’m tired of your “standards of queerness” bullshit. Stop treating gender non-conforming people the way heteronormative people have treated you. It’s not cool.
“Stop treating gender non-conforming people the way heteronormative people have treated you.” That is exactly what so much of this crap is. Some people have been shit on by some group, so they look for people that they can look down on.
You be the best you that you can be. Sounds like the best you is pretty damn awesome.
Cheering myself up, refusing to wear trousers.
Never hang out with anyone who says “feminist” the same way Draco Malfoy says “mudblood”.
This is the best way to explain this.
never hang out with anyone who says “men” the same way malfoy says “mudblood” either
Never hang out with anyone who says anything like “mudblood”
unless it’s “vegetables”
don’t let the vegans see this
Let’s go back to 1945…
Let’s not… Let’s play a game called “Context Matters!”
That picture on the left, so iconic and romantic? Yeah, that’s a sexual assault right there. That man was a stranger, a strong stranger who grabbed a random woman on the street, and “kissed” her. In her words:
Suddenly, I was grabbed by a sailor. It wasn’t that much of a kiss… “I felt that he was very strong. He was just holding me tight. I’m not sure about the kiss…it was just somebody celebrating. It wasn’t a romantic event.
That picture on the right, the one that looks like a man holding a woman down in the mists of a riot, her clothes disheveled as he kissed her hard? That man is her boyfriend. He’s comforting her. Her real attackers are the police. An eyewitness stated:
The girl who was knocked over landed head first on the pavement with her boyfriend landing partially on top of her. She was in visible pain, crying, but the two officers gave them a parting shove and moved on.
The left picture: an icon of sexism, male privilege, and female objectification.
The right: real love in the face of brutal state force.
Context also matters in the words of the woman kissed by the sailor. I wish I could find the post that discusses why this was not a negative experience for her (if someone has it, please toss it at me), but she never held it against him or felt that she was taken advantage of.
The left is celebration that the violence is over. The right is love in the midst of violence. That’s about where the comparisons end.
Sugar Blair and Hayley Fingersmith on CrashPadSeries.com.
I posted this recently, but it only has a handful of notes which is a shame so I’m going to do it one more time because I feel like maybe folks just didn’t realize how informative it was.
This is the form that you must sign to go on testosterone therapy at my doctor’s office. If you read it carefully, it essentially spells out any of the known changes from going on T.
Not only that, but it goes over some of the things that doctor’s require once you’re actually on it (i.e. mandated yearly visits). And some of the dangers from going on it.
It’s really a great document to look through, I highly recommend at least glancing it over. I was very pleased with it when I read it at my appointment.
I’m glad people do hand these out; always good to know what you’re putting in your body and what to look out for and expect.
Genderless DOES exist! Thank you for your kind words, but don’t go getting down on yourself because you think I have it better for some reason. It took me a long time to figure out what made me comfortable, and I’m still working on that. Don’t give up the fight for your own serenity. Much love.
Inspirational words, mate ~
I told my brother in the car that I’ve been chest binding. He asked me why. I then explained that some days I really hate that I have boobs and I wish I didn’t have them.
We sat in awkward silence for a while.
Then he took me to buy clothing in the men’s section so I could look cool just like him. :D